The Anatomy of Marriage

As I finished reading the chapter of my psychology book, I saw this last pages on it. This chapter discuss the different types of marriage that will guide you which types of these accommodation stages you are in. It is very interesting subject because it help you understand what the marriage is all about, and somehow recognize the each couple accomplishment.

According to this article, “Each married couple produces its own road map of accommodation, including a unique history of maneuvers that provide continuity throughout the couple’s journey” (Tinnin, A146). These five basic pattern discuss each marital styles you are encourage to relate your self, friends, colleagues, relatives, and celebrity that you observe. So these are the following pattern:

1. Conflict-Habituated
2. Devitalized
3. Passive- Congenial
4. Vital
5. Total

All of these styles discuss different styles of marriage relationship, and I can say that some of them explains the primary cause of divorce, root of conflict, and sort of marriage problems. However, I would say that there is no perfect marriage, but mine I would consider to be in (Total) accommodation, which I understand that fits on my relationship. So, I want to share with you what is the meaning of Total Marriage.

“This marital style is characterize by the spouse’s full and complete absorption in and all life-long activities, needs, and goals of one-another. They achieve a harmony of mutual love and purpose, where they appear to function as “one”. Their mental, physical and emotional energy is directed toward responding to and nurturing the spouse. Little dissonance of conflict in this relationship. When it does occur, they acknowledge it openly and settle it immediately (True)” (Linnin, A150).

Now, I gave you this little information, I hope that this will help you to discover what types of marriage you have.


Source:

Tinnin, Joe M."Marriage: A Developmental Process Not a Terminal Event" Essential Of
Psychology.2007 edition: